The Sacred Power of Being Your Own Guru
- Bruklan Starr LeFay
- Dec 3, 2024
- 10 min read
Updated: Aug 18
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Greetings, my Fantastical Fairies and radiant magical Starr-bursts...and yes, a glitter-dusted nod to those swirling in a spell of Bruklan-itis, you're seen too. 🌙🌠
It's Goddess Bruklan here, conjuring up another soul-sparked blog post to ignite your inner fire and inspire you to create the most enchanted, elevated version of your life and, by ripple effect, awaken beauty and brilliance in the world around you.
Why it's time to stop seeking your truth from someone else's mouth
In the world we currently live in countless voices claim to have all the answers. It can be easy to hand over our power in exchange for guidance. But when we rely too heavily on external gurus, we risk losing the most important voice of all. Our own. This is a reminder that your inner wisdom is not only valid, but sacred. You are your own greatest teacher, and the moment you embrace that truth, you step into a freedom no one can take away.
Too many people are handing their personal power over to other humans beings. We're conditioned to look outside of ourselves for absolutely everything like validation, salvation, direction, and purpose. From childhood, we are taught to trust authority more than instinct. To follow teachers, leaders, and gurus who tell us they are the only ones who hold the keys to the kingdom.
If this sounds familiar, you're in the right place.
The Fall of False Gurus: A Pattern Repeated Too Often
A guru, like anyone else, has the potential to betray you. Several years ago, I had a guru who suddenly flipped out and began calling all her followers evil simply because she chose to go against her own teachings. Unfortunately, many other so-called gurus have done the same, and this pattern will continue in the future.
Throughout history, many groups who claim to be the only way to truth have been rocked by scandal after scandal of sexual abuse, CSA, financial manipulation, psychological control, and much more. Their seeming charisma cloaks their dysfunction. Their teachings hold a little truth, but their actions and criminal cover-ups betray them.
And when it all unravels?
They don't apologize.
The don't take accountability.
Instead they shift the blame onto their followers by saying things like, "You misunderstood my divine wisdom."
This is gaslighting dressed up in so-called spiritual robes.
It's not new. It's not sacred.
It's manipulation.
In my experience, and in the experience of many people I know, blindly following groups like those have led to significant problems such as complex PTSD, depression, and stunted mental growth. Groups led by manipulative leaders often blame these issues on the outside world, refusing to acknowledge their own harmful actions. Manipulation is their primary tool, and they often condition their followers to stop thinking for themselves, which is a tragic misuse of the incredible gift of human intellect.
It is time to graduate from external authority and claim something deeper.
The Radical Act of Being Your Own Guru
To be your own guru is not to become arrogant and egoic. It is to come home to yourself softly, powerfully, and honestly.
It means you stop looking for someone else to tell you who you should be or how you should live.
It means you are in full control of your beliefs. Not because you're rebellious, but because you're rooted.
It means your beliefs are living, breathing, sacred truths shaped by your experience, your inner knowing, and your relationship with spirit. Not a secondhand inheritance passed down by another.
The beauty of becoming your own guru is that you can change your beliefs whenever you feel the need. If something doesn't align with your personal values or resonate with you 100% you can discard it. You don't need anyone else's permission to do so. True belief should resonate deeply with your authentic self.
Being your own guru means:
You trust your inner compass more than outside opinion.
You take responsibility for your growth without outsourcing your power.
You question everything, including your own thoughts, with love and discernment.
You are not afraid to evolve, to shift, to unlearn, and to rise again.
Change is the only constant in life. If you are not changing, you are not growing. And if you are not growing, you are not truly living. Taking the time to tune in with yourself and understand your true nature helps you develop your own belief system, one that isn't imposed by someone else. Your beliefs should be personal and unique to you, and it shouldn't matter whether others share them or not.
This is not about isolation.
This is about personal sovereignty.
But What About Guidance? Aren't Teachers Valuable?
Absolutely. Teachers, mentors, and guides can be luminous lights on the path. They can help us expand, heal, and awaken.
But a real teacher doesn't demand your loyalty.
They encourage your liberation.
They don't want you to become a copy of them.
They want you to become more of you.
If a teacher gets angry when you question them,
If they shame you for growing in a different direction,
If they claim to have all the answers and demand your complete surrender...
Run.
Because the moment someone claims to be the only mouthpiece of truth, they have become a false prophet.
Real teachers point you inward.
Real teachers rejoice when you outgrow them.
Real teachers remind you that you already have the wisdom within you.
It's a sad situation when people are taught not to use their minds, as if having independent thoughts is wrong. Essentially, high control groups imply that the Universal Source of all made a mistake in giving people their own minds. But the truth is, the Universe is never wrong. It's time for people to break free from these constraints and start using their minds as the Universe intended. Allowing others to control your thoughts is not only a waste but also a betrayal of your true self and the Universal Source of all.
The Myth of Certainty and the Beauty of Mystery
One of the reasons so many people cling to gurus is because they want certainty.
They want a blueprint.
They want to be told what to do.
But real spirituality is not about certainty. It is about mystery.
It is about dancing with the unknown and developing enough trust in your own soul to navigate the shadows as well as the light.
Being your own guru means you get to:
Sit with paradoxes.
Ask questions.
Let the answers emerge in dreams, in synchronicities, in the stillness of your own heart.
It means you become fluent in the language of your soul. A language only you can interpret.
Signs You Are Ready to Be Your Own Guru
You don't have to wait for a grand revelation.
If you're still reading this, you're likely already on, or very near, your true path.
Here are some signs you are ready (or already becoming your own guru):
🌠You've started questioning long-held beliefs.
🌠You feel repelled by the elitism or hierarchy of high control groups.
🌠You are no longer impressed by titles, degrees, or robes.
🌠You feel a sacred call to deepen your own truth.
🌠You've felt the sting of betrayal but now seek wisdom, not revenge.
🌠You recognize the Divine as something within you, not just above you.
Your Beliefs Should Be Personal, Not Prescribed
We are all walking mosaics of experience, ancestry, intuition, and soul memory. Why should our beliefs look identical?
The truth is: your truth will not be found in someone else's doctrine.
It will be found in the quiet revelations of your daily life.
In your tears. In your joy. In your instincts.
Your beliefs should be like fingerprints, no two alike.
Let them evolve. Let them surprise you. Let them make your soul feel like it's dancing in its own skin.
You don't need to justify your beliefs to anyone.
If they bring you peace, depth, and alignment, they are sacred.
If they expand your love, compassion, and clarity, they are holy.
Let this be your mantra:
"I no longer seek to be saved by other human beings. I seek to be seen as my true self, first and foremost. I release the need to idolize or obey those who seek to disempower me. I am no longer afraid of my own wisdom. I walk this path with spirit beside me, not above me. I am guided by love. I am led by my truth. I am my own guru, and that is more than enough."
Empower yourself by embracing your unique beliefs and thinking for yourself.
You Are the Light You've Been Chasing
In a world that constantly teaches you to dim, shrink, and follow other human beings as if they are gods the most radical, revolutionary act is to turn inward and listen to your own inner voice.
Not to the loudest voice.
Not to the most polished speaker.
But to the quiet thrum of your own soul.
You came here encoded with wisdom that no one else carries.
You came here to remember, not be indoctrinated.
You are not lost.
You are not broken.
You are not in need of saving.
You are awakening.
And now is the time to walk in your knowing, not with arrogance, but with devotion.
To bow only to love.
To trust the path that unfolds inside your own wild, radiant heart.
Because when you become your own guru,
You don't just liberate yourself
You inspire others to do the same.
Affirmation
I am my own guru❣
I trust my inner wisdom.
I honor the truth that rises within me.
I no longer seek permission to believe what I know.
I am not afraid to question. I am not afraid to grow.
I release the need for external validation.
I lead myself with love, clarity, and intuition.
My path is sacred because it is mine.
I walk in alignment with my soul's design.
I am the guide I've been searching for.
I am the light I've been chasing.
I am my own guru.
And I walk in my truth fully, freely, and fearlessly.
Ritual: Becoming Your Own Guru
A Ceremony to Reclaim Inner Authority and Soul Sovereignty
🕯Purpose:
To energetically sever ties with false authority, release external dependence, and awaken your inner wisdom as your truest guide.
🧘♀️Ideal Timing:
During a New Moon (for fresh beginnings),
Or Full Moon (for powerful release and illumination)
Or simply at a moment when you feel disillusioned or are ready to claim your power.
🔮What You'll need:
A mirror (handheld or full-length)
A white candle (for clarity and truth)
A black candle (for protection and release)
A journal and pen
A bowl of water (Infused with salt or herbs like rosemary or sage for purification)
An object to represent your higher self (crystal, sacred necklace, photo of yourself as a child, etc)
Optional: Incense or essential oil (frankincense, lavender, or sandalwood)
🌿Step-by-Step Ritual:
Create Your Sacred Space
Clear the area around you. Light incense or diffuse oil. Sit on a cushion or blanket. Place your items before you in a circle or on an altar. This is now your sanctuary. Your inner temple.
Whisper: "This space is sacred. This moment is mine. I step into my power. I remember who I am."
Light the Candles
Light the black candle first and say: "I release all false power that I have put trust in. I break contracts with false authority and disempowering beliefs. I call my power back."
Light the white candle and say: "I invite clarity, truth, and divine remembrance. I awaken the light of wisdom that has always lived within me."
Mirror Gazing: Soul Affirmation
Take the mirror. Look deeply into your own eyes. Not with vanity but with reverence.
Say aloud, slowly and with intention:
"I am the teacher.
I am the guide.
I am the wisdom I seek.
I honor my intuition.
I trust my soul.
I lead myself with love.
I am my own guru."
Let any emotions rise. If tears fall, let them be holy. If you laugh, let it be sacred joy. You're witnessing your soul in its raw beauty.
Water Purification: Release and Reclaim
Dip your fingers into the bowl of water and anoint your forehead, throat, and heart.
As you do, speak:
"I release the voices that are not mine.
I cleanse the echoes of control, fear, and shame.
I reclaim my truth, my voice, and my vision."
Then place the object representing your higher self next to your heart and hold it there for a moment. Breathe deeply.
Write Your Declaration of Sovereignty
Open your journal. Write the words:
"I choose to lead myself."
Then allow whatever comes next to pour through. Your beliefs, your values, your soul truths. Let it be a declaration of your personal spiritual compass. No right or wrong. Only what feels authentic to you.
Close with Gratitude and Light
Extinguish the black candle and whisper:
"I leave behind all that dims me."
Extinguish the white candle and whisper:
"I carry my light forward with trust."
Place your hand over your heart and say:
"I walk with me. I trust me. I love me."
Bow to yourself.
🌟Closing Prayer: The Flame Within
I stand at the altar of my own soul,
Whole.
Remembering who I am beneath the noise and names
A living spark of sacred flame.
I call my power back from every place I left it.
From false prophets and empty praise,
From guilt-wrapped teachings and -tongued ways,
From fear dressed up as divine will.
No longer shall I bow to voices louder than my own.
No longer shall I drink from wells that leave me dry.
No longer shall I search the sky for what lives behind my eyes.
I am the temple and the teacher.
I am the path and the priestess.
I am the question and the quiet answer.
I am the sacred seeker who has come home.
Spirit within me, guide me gently.
Let my choices be steeped in truth and tenderness.
Let my doubt be a doorway, not a detour.
Let my intuition sing louder than fear ever could.
I walk forward now rooted, radiant, and real.
Not above others. Not beneath them.
But eye to eye with my soul, ever unfolding.
I am my own guru. I am my own light.
And I walk this world as a sacred flame.
So may it be.
🕊🌌
Until we meet again, may your path be lit with moonbeams, your heart guided by stardust, and your days wrapped in pure magic.
I'll see you in the next post, my luminous beings. Stay glowing, stay golden. 💫
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I invite you to share your thoughts, experiences, and any wisdom you've discovered along your own journey. Let's create a space of encouragement and empowerment, where we can lift each other up as we all step into our truth. You're voice matters, and your story can inspire someone else to reclaim their power. Let's celebrate the courage it takes to be your own guru, and continue this conversation of growth, light, and shared wisdom.
Thank you so much for your support.
Love~2~All❣️
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